Have you ever wondered why some people with equal talent and creativity become prolific writers? And others of us do not?
At one point I thought I had a fear of success or fear of failure. Maybe I did not write because my skills were inferior?
Well, I watched a video of two prolific writers talking about their craft and the process. Tim Ferris and Neil Strauss deconstruct how they are able to surf over their writing challenges, which turns out to be every writer’s struggle.
If you are struggling as I have been, maybe viewing this video will give you the “ah ha” moment I recently had. It is an hour, but well worth every minute.
I don’t have time to blog regularly. I don’t have time to tweet or check facebook. Some days I wonder why did I start this blog. I find the pressure to write a blog at the end of the day painful. So, you can only imagine. It should come as no surprise that my book ideas still sit in my head.
I have analyzed my resistance. I have told myself every excuse in the book. I sometimes think I am like an addict to my established behaviors. I make excuses so I do not have to change, even though it would make a positive difference in my life and take me that much closer to achieving my writing aspiration — to write that novel.
Here are some classic symptoms. You may recognize them in yourself. I guess I’m doing that analytical thing again. (And is blogging another avoidance behavior mechanism?) All of these actions murder the writing spirit. Are derailing yourself from ever writing that novel? How does one stop these self-sabotaging behaviors?
- You are always too busy to write. The holidays. The family. The house.
- You start a story, but suddenly stop because you don’t know what comes next. You tell yourself, you are going to let yourself think about it ….the story eventually lands in a desk drawer bottom because you never find a good resolution.
- You wait for inspiration, cause you don’t know how you want the story to progress and figure that when you see or hear it, you’ll know it.
- You feel much better if you had someone to share your writing pain. You can’t write anything without a partner.
- You have anxiety about completing a project, because you may not feel you did this or that.
- You think your first draft stinks…and most likely, it will.
- Your family doesn’t support the alone time that it takes to write and research.
- You find it much more fun to do the research and not so much the writing. You like the idea of being a novel writer, but resist doing the work.
- You over analyze everything.
- You want each paragraph to be perfect, so you find it difficult to ever get to the end of a chapter.
- You do more blabbing about your story line than writing about it. That has to mean something.
In the weeks to come, I will explore each of these Resistance to Success behaviors. If you are reading this and want to share your story…maybe owning up to it will get you that much closer to achieving your writing goals.
Or if you have strategies to overcome the resistence to write, please feel free to share.
I thought I would be more accountable for not finding time to write, if I shared this honesty with the world. As luck would have it, I am no further along than I was a year ago, when I had this great idea.
I am excited to go to a writing class this Saturday. It has been a long time….I know you’ve listened to me whine about my writing groups. However, I think this one will be different. Although the instructor doesn’t write in the same genre, the elements in storytelling are all the same.
Well, wish me good luck. I need to stop horsing around and just sit down and write. Till next time…